In these very strange times, its even more important that we have peace inside our hearts so we can’t be easily swayed by the outside world.
Unfortunately Peace is the one thing you can’t try and do.
I know this because I was a girl that always tried my hardest at getting everything right. At seven I began to draw a map on how my life should look so I wouldn’t feel invisible – so I would be loved. But of course, my view of my life spilled into that of my parents, school friends, teachers.
I hadn’t learnt the true gift of sight. For me the true gift of sight is when there are no stories attached to what you see, what you feel. The true gift of sight is when you have become undone. You don’t mar your views with those of others, with stories you made up long ago.
You see with eyes afresh.
But for years I carried that map, spent centuries creating new road signs, rules, paving my way into how I saw life should be. My map became torn, worn, tears of frustration blurring the words. I got sick. I went into the darkness. But still that map was my guide.
All very good. But what happens when the map doesn’t coincide with the life you are living.
What then? Have you failed? Are you living the wrong life, standing on a stage that was meant for someone else ? Nothing feels right. You look from your map to your life, yes maybe some of it is as you dreamed it, but what if a lot isn’t how you predicated. Does that mean it’s wrong. No of course not. But the mind is powerful weapon. It can make it wrong. If only I hadn’t done this, if only I had done that …
I came from a time when they said you could have anything if you just tried hard enough.
A time when it was expected to have children, to be married, to have your career sorted by the time you are a certain age.
If that doesn’t happen you might feel something is wrong with you … but again .. that’s a story, an illusion … there is no right way or wrong way … everything is flowing as it should be … you are learning what you need too.
But if you hold onto your map of how you perceived your life to be, you will be continually disappointed. Because its by letting go of control that the magic happens!
I had a dream. I still do. But I am giving up my attachment to it - I am letting it go – like a balloon its flies to my destiny.
I have burned the map. Its ashes rise to where I don’t know. But that doesn’t matter. I am no longer a prisoner of my own making. Everyday can open up like a flower, a new day, with endless possibilities anew.
Its great to have a dream .. a burning passion … but you mustn’t hold on too tight or else the universe can’t intervene.
And as the great Deepak Chopra said ..
“The Law of Detachment says that in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn’t mean you give up the intention to create your desire. You don’t give up the intention, and you don’t give up the desire. You give up your attachment to the result.”